“You shall know the Truth, and the Truth shall set you free! So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” -Jesus
We live in a day where truth is bendable. I can’t understand how truths like “Concrete is hard” or “Fire is hot” can be flexible… but – in this day and to this generation – they are. We even use phrases like ‘your truth’ and ‘my truth’ to describe two versions of the same story.
If we’re going to get unstuck, we’ve got to grasp a new concept… actually a very old concept. Truth is absolute. Truth does not bend, not even for me or you. Truth is solid and unchanging. Truth is truth and that’s the truth! Watch this… if you say that the truth is there is no such thing as absolute truth, then just ask yourself: “Are you absolutely sure? Is that the truth?” It doesn’t work that way!
Truths are unchanging. They can’t be bought or bent, they may go out of style but they’re never outdated. We get stuck when our opinions become our ‘truths’ instead of the truths formulating our opinions. When our beliefs [B] about ourselves, life, and God try to reshape the truth, then we stop growing and get stuck.
For example, one of the greatest truths is: ‘You were made by God, in His image. He loves you because He’s good like that.’ But our experiences whisper (and sometimes scream) shame and condemnation. We begin to feel unlovable, especially by Someone who claims to know every part of us, inside and out. Our new truth becomes that we WERE loved, but not any more. But the reality is that’s not real truth, that’s just our feeling that we’ve substituted for the facts.
The problem is that wounds of pain and trauma will cause us to replace those solid truths with our own new beliefs and we don’t even realize we’ve done it. We’ve switched life-long, rock-hard facts for the shifting sand of feelings as our foundation.
In his most famous sermon, Jesus said that everyone will experience life’s storms and floods. We will all experience the wind and rain. What matters is our foundation. What really matters is the truth.
All I’m suggesting is that agree with the truth and not try to rewrite it. What has God already said about you, about Himself, and about this life?
When you think about what has happened to you… the pain, the trauma, the event(s) [A] that changed your life’s course, what “I” statements did you tell yourself about it? I’ve included a few stuck points that are likely your opinions [B] that you’ve replaced to become your new foundation for surviving [C].
Which one(s) hit closest to home with you:
__ If only I had done better or been more vigilant…
__ I messed up and ________ happened
__ Because I didn’t tell anyone…
__ I should have known what would happen
__ It’s my fault
__ If I had been paying attention
__ I don’t deserve to be happy
__ If I let other people get close to me…
__ If I hadn’t been drinking / taken that _______
__ No one can understand me
__ I am unlovable
__ I am worthless
__ I am damaged goods
__ I deserve all the bad things that happen to me
__ I must control what happens to me from here on out
__ I can’t trust anyone
__ I have no control over my future
__ I’m a terrible person
__ I am a pervert
__ I’m a lost cause
When you and I think of confession, we’re likely thinking of someone uncovering a huge secret or bringing to light a hidden darkness. That’s not really it at all. What people don’t understand about confession is that it literally means “to agree” / “to say the same thing as.” It’s more about my mind coming into agreement with the truth that never changes. It’s about me moving toward the Light. Confession is when I come to a place to recognize that ‘my truth’ is nothing more than an improper opinion and that I need to let it go and replace it with a real truth.
It’s time for you to get unstuck. It’s time for you to identify one or more of those beliefs [B] that have drug you down for too long. It’s time for you to agree with God about who you are. Which one(s) will you topple over today?
It’s time to challenge those beliefs with some truth! Ask yourself… ‘Is that opinion really the fact or is that a feeling based on what happened to me? Do most people who know me and who care about me feel that way too? Is it helpful for me to rehearse that statement or is it harmful? What can I tell myself on such occasions in the future?’ And here’s the big one: ‘What is the truth that I should replace this statement with?’
Google it. I do it all the time, along with millions of other people. And if you can’t find a simple, truth-filled statement, then I’ve included a few on the last page of this chapter. I like to call them myth-busters. They are the promises of God found in His Word.
Let’s Get Unstuck
To get unstuck, you must replace a belief with truth. You must. You can’t get unstuck by letting that lie hold you back any longer. So do it, right now. Please take a second and whisper the old belief. Then say the new truth that will replace it a little louder. Repeat it even louder again. For real, say it with your lips (not just with the voice in your head).
Take the next step: write it down. In the space below, write down what you said with your mouth a moment ago. Better yet, don’t just write it and keep it a secret; also send it in a text, on a postcard, or maybe even on social media. Confess the Truth as your truth. Be specific and don’t be ashamed. Agree with God about it. It’s true already, so claim it as yours… because it is!
God is with you: “I will never leave you or forsake you”
You were made in God’s image: “So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.”
Things happen for a reason: “All things work together for good”
You are loved: “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
You were made for a purpose: “We are his handiwork, created unto good works”
You are loved: “This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him.”
God is greater than anything in this world: “Greater is He that is in you than he that is in the world”
God’s thoughts are on you: “I know the thoughts I think toward you…to give you a future and a hope”
You are loved: “And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love.”